I need my own confusion.com to help me solve some issues and find a new direction in life. I know what you are thinking, turn to Allah and he shall help you and guide you better than anyone or any confusion strategy you can possible employ. I agree, but I think my confusion stems from too much choice, Allah has provided me with so many options, so many paths, so many options. Which one?
No, that is not the problem, but it seems like that. However, if I’m honest, the problem cannot be too many options. The problem is, that I’m afraid to ask for Allah’s help, because what if, after he shows me the right road, I can’t follow thorough. Even worse, I kind of know the path I should take. But I’m trying to combine it with other things, which is not a problem in itself, depending on how far the other path takes me.
Same time, last year I had this same muddle mind, after some heavy serious discussion in my head, half hearted attempts to do the right thing. I had settled for the middle path, or rather, just procrastinating; now I’m back to the same spot. Errrrg.
May 4, 2008 at 11:21 am |
Assalam and I hope this reaches you in the best of health and eeman.
Im not gonna tell you anything you dont already know. Im not gonna say, “place your trust in Allah” because you already know that. Im not gonna say, rush to a decision because the longer your procrastinate, the harder issues becomes…and I wont say that to you because you already know that. So whats my advice to you?
Hmmmm…how about, dont be afraid to ask Allah for His help. Regardless of what you think might be good or bad for you, you’ll never know the knowledge of the unseen and it is only from shaitan that he’ll try to confuse you about Allah. Shaitan will try to convince you that if you ask for Allah’s help and you find what Allah has decided for you not to your liking, what are you gonna do then? Prevent your thought from reaching that far into the future and aiod granting shaitan access to your heart with nonsense such as that. My sister Ibti, please just place your trust in Allah and dont worry about anything else. Humble yourself to Him and plea to Him about your worries, concerns, what you want to do and what you hope from HIm. And regardless of who you may have in your life today or who may come into your life tomorrow, Allah is the only one you can depend on because He will never let you down. Whether the isssue is work, family, marriage, moving to another country or anything else, my most sincerest advice to you is, take your case to Him and pour your heart in His presence. Trust me, I’ve done it and it feels AMAZING
May Allah make things easy for you and us. Take care inshAllah
May 4, 2008 at 12:04 pm |
P.S.I kinda rushed that response cause I have an Almaghrib class to run to, so my bad for all the mistakes in writing you’ll find in it
May 5, 2008 at 4:51 pm |
Salam Ameen.
Thanks for your great thoughts and ideas. I appreciate it. I guess I don’t even know what to ask for at this moment. Call it a lack of sustainable thought, I change my mind on daily basis. I guess I could pray for Allah to guide me out of this confusion.
The thing you said about thinking so far ahead of what you may or may not be able to do in the future is so true. I suffer from this problem, I know but some how I always end up thinking, what if I can’t or don’t follow thorough. It is so bad that I don’t make promises to people, because I’m scared that I won’t keep it. I hate it so much, when someone promises something out of their free will and then fails to do. How can you promise to do something in the future if you have no control of what the future holds for you or where you’ll be. I know I’m over complicating things and thinking too far ahead.
I guess it is a bit like you hang up on not being able to attain jannah for you and your wife, worrying about something that may or may not happen, and guessing at the future. I was thinking about it some more and it dawned on me that sometimes we go against everything we are told to do; I can’t remember who narrated the haidth which goes soemthing along the lines of: When you wake, don’t think you will reach margrib, and if you reach margrib, don’t think you will reach sun rise. It was about worship and the value of time and the limited time we have in this world which we should be utilizing well.
There is another saying; never leave the good you can do now for 2morrow, for 2morrow may never come (again translating, so it loses some of its flow and value)
May 5, 2008 at 11:34 pm |
Assalamu Alekum,
Ibitisam, I can relate to what you are talking about. The ‘what if’ syndrome is something that may endanger our Emaan as Sh Waleed said in his class this weekend. The best cure for such confusions is Tawakul. Leave your matters up to Allah swt and do what you can do best at that moment. Don’t burden your thoughts and over think what may and may not come as you said yourself. Only Allah swt knows what your future holds. Keep your Emaan strong in Allah swt and be optimistic. Whatever happens whether it is good or bad, say Alhamdulilah. The hikma and wisdome of Allah swt is something that we cant even comprehend. We may view things to be the most horrible event that ever happened to us but in reality it was probably the best thing that happened to us.
Pray and may dua’a. Have faith in Allah swt and believe that all khayre will only happen to you. Allah swt says in a hadeeth qudsi ‘ana 3inda thani abdi be’ I am at where my servant assumes I am. If you assume that Allah swt will only bless you with Khayre in your life in whatever form then inshAllah nothing but the best will happen to you.
Hope this somewhat comforted you habibti
Takecare
June 1, 2008 at 8:44 pm |
Salam Faith:
Sis, firstly thanks for the advice. Indeed it is comfort.
Sometimes in life we can complicate things, without needing to.
I hope you are well inshallah, in the best of health and Iman.